Hi! I'm a wife, mother, friend, a proud black woman who loves her afro hair and I love traveling and letting my life experience shape me! I hope my experiences as a wife, mother, friend and natural hair lover inspires you to stay strong with all those hats you wear as a woman. I pray that here at Shays Place you find comfort in knowing your not alone!
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Being a mom!
My babies and I! Zacceus holding Aria when she was 3 days old!
Team Jenkins enjoy the snow and sledding!
So being a mom has a lot of beautiful moments and also have
a ton of hard ones! I feel like being a mom is supposed to challenge us in
areas in which others can’t. For me personally I love youth! I love infants, elementary
age kids and high school. Anyone that know me knows I can’t stand middle
school youth and the toddler preschool age LOL. So obviously, those ages can’t
be skipped LOL. So, I had to learn how to teach to their “know
it all” attitudes and not doing what I asked them the first time. We were all
raised differently but I know for me telling my parents I’m not would get you
pooped in your mouth LOL. With the way society is now popping your kid could
get child protective service called on you, which I believe is sad because
sometimes our kids need that good old fashion “whopping” aka spanking, just to
clarify a whopping is not getting beaten a beaten is getting beaten, which I
never experience. Whopping your kid is not child abuse. There most defiantly is
a balance in discipline your kid. I think what becomes the issue is a parent
not knowing the correct way. Never give them a whopping when your still pretty
pissed off because that’s an easy path to abuse. Plus, it’s not for everybody,
my kids are pretty strong willed, which would be very useful after we shape
them but as of now a part of our shaping them is giving them a whopping when
earned, particularly when they have done something crazy like running a cross the
street. I wouldn’t want my kid to learn from getting hit by a car. So, getting
a whopping for such behavior is just to say “Hey I love you and I know this
will hurt your bottom for a little bit, but what would hurt more is getting hit
by a car”. I explain to my kids why they got a whopping and we talk about it
after. I try not to whoop them when I’m mad because when your mad you can’t
teach your child the importance of what’s going on. So, I don’t spare my rod
because you’ll spoil that child for real for real. Anyways when rising a child
gets difficult we as woman should be able to reach out to one another and get advice
and comfort and just be there for each other. I have noticed more often than
not there is more judgement passed verses helping each other. All kids need
structure and getting advice on how to make your home more structure (which removes
a TON of stress) can’t hurt anyone.
I encourage you to not feel like an evil mom because
something ugly came out your mouth towards your kids. I encourage you to not
quit on them and to be proud of being a mother. I want to encourage you to not
judge each other but help one another. I want to remind you that you are just a
person and not a supernatural being and that you will not always have the best
mom days. I know that our good mom days outweighs our bad mom days, which shows
that we are great moms! We take on so much and should never be ashamed of
having a bad day or shaming other woman for having a bad day! Do your best to
take care of your needs so that the needs of your kids can be met in a loving
manner! I will be writing more blogs on parenting but until than here are some
resources on parenting and advice!!!
: this site has parenting advice, a hotline to talk to someone about a
parenting issue your having and other downloaded resources like charts and
: this site has tons of working parenting books and also resources for teachers
working with tough kids from toddler years through high school.
Please check all of these sources out because they really
work!!! Don’t forget to share, post, comment and subscribe!!!!!
Lately I have been feeling weary. Before you know it, the weariness
turns and to resentment, bitterness and eventually hate. I have spent my whole
life pouring out love into others and really trying to help them see the
potential that they have and show through my actions that love does still
exist. Sometimes a person can be exposed to so much pain and hate that they don’t
even recognize what real love looks like because of people using it so wrong.
Any how I have gotten to the state of feeling weary and discontinuing my work
in youth care. I feel as though God is preparing me for something so much bigger
than what I am currently doing. I have been working with teenagers since I was
a teen myself and has enjoyed even the ugliest moments of it. Now I feel it is
time to move on to something different. I’m at a different place in my life. I
feel like working with people will always be my thing. God has given different
gifts and a new vision, one that I plan on following. I may be very we…
Tamir Rice age 12, Micheal Brown age 18, Treyvon Martin age 17 and now Jordan Davis age 15. All young black boys killed by the very authority that is suppose to be protecting our children. As a mother, as a youth worker, as an auntie and a HUMAN BEING I have so much anger, sadness, confusion inside of my heart. This blog post isn't about bashing anyone what so ever, but if you are offended by anything I say in than you aren't really ready to listen and nor are you ready to help and that's okay. I just hope it helps you see a different view point is all.
One day I was making errand to Popeye's with my son and daughter in the back seat. When I was turning I did not use my left blinker and I also did not notice a cop behind. Now honestly I thought the cop was just going to ignore because the city I'm from, the cops won't even waste their time trying to pull me over, but it happened out in the little suburb I live in! Now the first thing I did when I was pullin…
So, I was up last night reading an article on kids and
screen time. They article said screen time mentally has some of the same
effects as cocaine users. I thought, man that’s crazy but I could totally see
what they are getting at. Like when I take my son iPad from him rather it’s
because it’s bedtime or because I prefer him to work on his writing skills, he
always seems to have a complete melt down over it.Than he always asks when he can get like
there isn’t anything else for him to do and when he doesn’t get it he cries
about it, which only makes him lose it for days. I have noticed the difference
in his attitude when he has gone a whole month without it vs. a whole month of
having it. His behavior is a lot better when he doesn’t have and it’s the same
for the tv to. My husband has seen him completely zone out like he is staring
at his iPad except there is nothing in his hands. It’s scary to think that
maybe this device actually plays a part in his behavior. We went a long time